You’ve been planning and looking forward to your wedding for so long. Probably months, maybe even years. What happens when it’s suddenly over? You might not realise beforehand how much the post-wedding blues will affect you. It’s actually hard not to get used to the constant buzz of enquiries and decision making in the build up to the day. I felt a lot more lost when it was over than I thought I would! Truth is, I wish I could do my wedding over again in slow motion- with a rewind button. But that’s what photos and videos are for right? And since mine has literally just ended and I’m experiencing first hand the depression that follows, I figured it’s time to get the finger out and figure out what to do!
My first advice would be, start thinking of something to distract yourself. Whether wedding related or not, this is a great chance to get that ‘to-do’ list done, or to start a new one. Here are a few ideas:
Thank You Cards
Opening your cards and presents can be an enjoyable way of lengthening the wedding experience. Organise your gifts and as soon as you can start writing cards while “who gave what” is fresh in your mind. Why not DIY your own thank you cards with a nice wedding or engagement photo? Alternatively send out some acknowledgement emails if you’re waiting on your official wedding photos.
If you are flying away straight after your wedding, a honeymoon is obviously an excellent distraction. If, like me, you already took a week off for the wedding (or, eh.. almost two!) you might not be looking at going straight away, so planning where and when to go can take some time and effort. But definitely enjoyable time and effort! If you’ve just returned from your honeymoon why not plan ahead for a weekend break- maybe to somewhere relatively nearby that you’ve always meant to go but never got a chance! Something to look forward to always helps keep spirits up.
Wedding Dress Decision
Start thinking about what you would like to do with your dress. There are many options- did you have an idea before the wedding of whether you’d like to keep it, give it away or sell it?
Display: If you have an empty corner in your bedroom, office space or wardrobe, why not display your dress on a nice hanger or even a mannequin? Have a feel good moment each time it catches your eye.
Alteration: Get it shortened so you can wear it again, or if you plan to have children make a pretty baby outfit or christening gown. Alternatively there are other options you can use the material for such as a pretty sash, cushion covers, bed throw, wedding album cover or anything else you can think of!
Charity: If you don’t plan to make use of your dress and envisage it sitting gathering dust somewhere, why not consider giving it away to a good cause? Here are a few options for charities to donate your dress to.
Trash the Dress: Get one final wear and say goodbye to your dress, plus a chance to have some more photos with your groom! Here’s one of our favorites, an extra fun trash the dress idea.
Boudoir Shoot: Another opportunity for some photos, this time for your groom’s eyes only. You might not need to wear the whole dress but definitely bring it as a prop, along with your wedding accessories and any other lingerie you have planned. For more ideas see our post on bridal boudoir sessions.
Try Something New
You need something to fill the gap that your wedding has left, so why not use this opportunity to take up a new hobby? You could learn a new language or skill (in my case, I may take steps to learn how to cook!) or continue the DIY streak you might have started before the wedding- if you enjoyed it. Check out Skillshare for some more options and online classes. Another idea is to try something with your new husband that you’ve never done together before. Go to the theatre or take up a new sport, or for all you couch potatoes (like me!) even just start watching a new TV series. We just started Breaking Bad and it’s really helping to distract me!
And now to take my own advice and get busy. Good luck beating those post wedding blues!